We sometimes recall events and certain crossroads, in the process shedding a few tears or sharing a few laughs. The single, most overused phrase when reminiscing would be “what if”. What if you had done things differently? Crossed the road a little more carefully; perhaps you wouldn’t have gotten the nasty bone fracture. Drank a bottle lesser; maybe you would have saved that boy’s life and his family a whole lot of tears. Gave your undivided attention to your academics; you could have prevented that one year of heartbreak and a lifetime of insecurities. “What if” provides the convenient excuse for us to shift from guilt to regret, simply because of the fact that there was an alternative pathway to go.
Alternative pathway or not, we each chose our consequences. Admit it, if you had the chance to relive that exact moment you made your choice you would have executed the exact same actions, made the same decisions, bore the same burden for months and years to come. All because we follow our instinctive natures despite our minds’ reasoning.
Do yourself a favour: the next time you retell a vital part of your story, do remember to catch yourself on that phrase and choke on it. These stories unravel because they need to; lessons are taught because we need them. We were too caught up in the possibilities that we forgot the chain reactions have already taken place somewhere down the road and your fate have already been cast in stone.
When the clock turns anti clockwise, that fracture will happen, that accident will occur and that boy will still have a permanent seat in your heart.
Do not be part of the delusional crowd who use the chances they didn’t take to excuse themselves. Would you rather spend the rest of your life pursuing answers to question marks?
” In my life, I was always floating around the edge of the dark side and saying what if take it a little bit too far, and who says you have to stop there, and what’s behind the next door. Maybe you gain a wisdom from examining those things. But after a while, you get too far down in the quicksand. ” – Trent Reznor